Positive: Partnership Marriage Love Compassion Opening to others Establishing bonds Discovering what matters to you
Reversed: Denying your true feelings Closing your hear Separation Being in denial
Some people feel alone and find random “just anybody” people to fill the gap. This is a mistake. Find the right people. Don’t seek random validation. Use this feeling of aloneness as a catalyst to understand yourself fully. When you understand yourself fully you will understand and be directed in the direction of the proper people to fill the gap you perceive as loneliness. To allow random “any people” to fill this gap you are significantly denying yourself the opportunity to fully actualize your potential and yourself. This is a disadvantage to your personal evolution process. Be careful, be mindful of this.
Validation- the need for it, this can be a quality of the Lovers card in tarot.
The masculine wants to see itself reflected in the feminine. The feminine wants to see itself reflected in the masculine. This is the nature of relationships.
All any of us really want is to be able to trust. This is where love comes from. The ability to trust and be trusted without fear of the trust being betrayed. We all seek to trust. It is a fundamental brick of existence.
To receive love, emanate love. Not from the head, but from the heart. What you put out into the universe is what you will attract. Put negativity out, you will receive negativity. Negative people will glom onto you. Put light and love out, and those are the people you will attract. Dispel negativity. It is harmful. It takes up space that could otherwise be taken up with light and love.
Some will use spirituality for external validation, making sure others know of their experiences, both real and fabricated in the hopes of generating envy that they may feed off the energy of this envy. Envy- the fuel of the weak spirit.
The projections of others can easily become the masks and disguises we wear. What happens when we remove these masks, these disguises? Are we able to? What others expect from us, what they expect us to be for them and to them often distract us from our authentic selves. Of course, to an extent, defining ourselves as we are in the context of others is what creates the societies we live in. A balance must be established and maintained- a balance between who we really are and what our society needs us to be.
An aspect of The Lovers card- relationships involves opening yourself to others. Opening yourself to others is a vulnerable thing to do. Vulnerability can lead to weird, uncomfortable feelings.
Love comes from the heart. It can only come from the heart. It is not an intellectual pursuit. It is knowing. It is a knowingness. If it requires thought, it is not real. If you know it, it is real. It is so.
“Together” can mean “To get her.”
The reason one must love oneself before others can expect to love this person is for a reason that when you love yourself the charge of love is built up in the person. This love emanates out and is felt by those around the person it becomes okay to love this person even if that is not articulated. You must understand this. This is the very basic Law of Attraction at its core. What you emanate finds like, and brings it to you. If you feel unsure or confused, you will bring more confusion. If you are sure, you will draw into you more surety. What you feel, what you emanate is what you will attract. So to find true love in your life, love yourself first. If loving yourself is difficult, then there obstacles to overcome. These are not to be used as excuses, for an “excuse” is an unwillingness try and to change. These blocks are merely mirrors. To not like what you see in the mirror means to change your appearance. There are many ways to do this. Explore the shadows, as we have talked about before. Follow them to their source of light. This must be done. It is so.
Peel away the layers of masks and social conditioning to reveal the truth of who you are before you can expect to make true friends. Otherwise, you are attracting people to you based on false premises, likely the untruth of your mask is attracting the untruth of their mask, never knowing the truth beneath theirs, nor showing the truth beneath yours. This is a life of falseness and hardly a life at all.